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Woman feels 'grateful' after having a miscarriage

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Shelly Mettling © Instagram Shelly Mettling Miscarriage is a very real topic that few people actually speak about. It's rare for a mother who loses a baby to speak candidly and publicly about how she feels and what she's going through. And as someone who's never been pregnant, that feeling of loss is unimaginable.

Shelly Mettling is bravely opening the conversation around miscarriage after losing her own baby. The 28-year-old miscarried two weeks after finding out she was pregnant, and wrote the most emotional and moving post on her Instagram, alongside a raw picture of herself and her husband.

She described the last 72 hours of her life as "UGH" and went on to explain what she's been going through, Metro reports. Having felt every emotion from sadness and anger to confusion and frustration, Shelly says the main thing she's feeling now is grateful.


The Last 72 Hours... UGH <-- realistically the only word that truly describes the Emotions! 2 weeks ago We found out we were growing our Family to 3... We were Excited, Nervous, and Extremely Grateful! Today is a bit different...As We lay here losing something we prayed so damn hard for I can't help but be Angry, Emotional, Sad, Confused, and Frustrated! But the one Feeling I am holding onto from 2 weeks prior... GRATEFUL! I'm grateful that I got to Feel (even for a short time) the power of Motherhood! I'm grateful that I got to Experience the bond that a woman feels the instant she finds out she is growing a little human in her belly! I'm grateful I got to Feel the Love I was capable of feeling/giving to someone that I had never even met! I'm grateful for the Fact that God Gave me this Experience to test my strength! I'm Grateful for the Family and Friends that have been checking in on me and lifting me up when I've been So Knocked down it's hard to visualize standing again! I'm grateful I have a platform to share my story to help others who have made room in their own hearts for someone special they too never got to meet! I'm grateful for the mindset I've been working on daily the past 2 years and the fact that through all this Pain I'm able to still see that there is purpose in all this madness! I'm Sad, I'm Heartbroken, I'm torn to pieces But I'm Grateful! Because... "A Grateful Heart is a magnet for miracles" and Life still has a lot of those in store for me! #ForeverInMyHeart #AlwaysGrateful #miscarriage #Blessed

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"I'm grateful that I got to feel (even for a short time) the power of Motherhood! I'm grateful that I got to experience the bond that a woman feels the instant she finds out she is growing a little human in her belly! I'm grateful I got to feel the love I was capable of feeling/giving to someone that I had never even met.

The reason why this woman feels 'grateful' after having a miscarriage will bring you to tears © Instagram / @shellymettling The reason why this woman feels 'grateful' after having a miscarriage will bring you to tears

"I'm grateful for the family and friends that have been checking in on me and lifting me up when I've been so knocked down it's hard to visualise standing again! I'm grateful I have a platform to share my story to help others who have made room in their own hearts for someone special they too never got to meet.

"I'm grateful for the mindset I've been working on daily the past 2 years and the fact that through all this pain I'm able to still see that there is purpose in all this madness. I'm sad, I'm heartbroken, I'm torn to pieces but I'm grateful! Because... "A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles" and life still has a lot of those in store for me!"

We admire the strength and courage it must have taken her to write about something so very personal. Comments of support have been rolling in and Shelly says she's been contacted by other women who have also experienced loss. 

As she said herself, miscarriage is "rarely talked about, never shared, mostly kept a secret." But by sharing her story, Shelly is making other women feel less alone.

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