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'My husband cheated on me last night'

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a man looking at the camera: The wife shared her devastation on parenting forum Mumsnet. © Getty The wife shared her devastation on parenting forum Mumsnet. A woman has shared an emotional post after her husband of a decade confessed to having cheating on her the previous night.

The Mumsnet user, who chose the handle 'WifeofCheater', says she and her husband have been married for 10 years, have two children, a mortgage and what she thought was a "happy marriage" with only "a few arguments".

"Husband went out to watch football yesterday - a rare occurrence," she explains.

"He doesn't often drink so I knew he'd be three sheets to the wind."

She says he FaceTimed her at 10.30pm, drunk, to tell her how beautiful she was and that he loves her.

"Not unusual, he gets soppy when drunk," she explains.

"But then he started telling me about a girl who’d pursued him all night and offered to take him back to hers for a s---."

The wife explains the girl in question was young.

"I said, 'Why are you telling me this? I hope you told her no' and he stayed quiet and said he was getting a taxi home."

When he arrived home, the wife says she had a sick feeling and "knew something wasn't right".

She confronted him and he confessed, not to intercourse but to oral sex.

The wife says she is devastated and feels sick, writing, "What kind of a man is he? He has ruined everything."

She says her husband doesn't consider the act of oral sex "proper cheating".

"I can almost see an emotional affair would’ve been worth the risk of our marriage but not this," she says, adding her husband says he "deeply regrets it" and is currently sleeping the spare room.

"I haven't slept," she continues. "I'm in the bedroom while the kids watch a film downstairs, sobbing and hoping they don't see me."

a screenshot of a cell phone: In the post, the wife is distraught. © Mumsnet In the post, the wife is distraught. She tells the forum she can't leave the marriage for financial reasons and doesn't have family around to support her, but plans to move into a flat they rent out when the tenants move out in three weeks.

"I wish this wasn’t happening and I genuinely never ever thought he’d do this to us. And with such a young woman, makes me think he’s just a predatory creep," she says. 

The majority of forum users have sided with the wife, saying cheating is cheating, regardless of the act.

"Bloody hell," writes one user. "I don’t know what to say. I’m not sure I could get past that level of sleaze, or lack of self control though. He’s majorly f---ed your marriage."

"He can leave, and you should encourage it as you need some head space right now," suggests another.

"Please keep this strength. Don’t listen to his excuses and lies keep strong for your family!" says one user

"It makes it worse he called you and retired to put the love blinders on. Any sort of action like that is cheating."

"He leaves," agrees another forum user. "Doesn't matter where he goes, he's the one who cheated. You'll need the income from the flat. So sorry."

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