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10 Things You Should Never Say to Your Kids

Woman's Day Logo Woman's Day | Slide 1 of 10: Frustrated by a daughter who you know is capable of much more in school, sports, music, etc.? While you (hopefully!) aren't saying such obviously hurtful things as "You are so lazy!", any comment that makes it seem as though you're not satisfied with her efforts can not only be discouraging to your child, it can also do the opposite of motivating her to try harder, says McCready. If your "try harder" has to do with tasks or chores, be clear about what you expect: "When you have your room cleaned up, then you can go out and play." If you're talking about academics, "take note of times she does go the extra mile," such as: "Wow! That extra time spent on your book report really shows!"

1. "I know you can try harder."

Frustrated by a daughter who you know is capable of much more in school, sports, music, etc.? While you (hopefully!) aren't saying such obviously hurtful things as "You are so lazy!", any comment that makes it seem as though you're not satisfied with her efforts can not only be discouraging to your child, it can also do the opposite of motivating her to try harder, says McCready. If your "try harder" has to do with tasks or chores, be clear about what you expect: "When you have your room cleaned up, then you can go out and play." If you're talking about academics, "take note of times she does go the extra mile," such as: "Wow! That extra time spent on your book report really shows!"

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