You are using an older browser version. Please use a supported version for the best MSN experience.

Couple crowdfunding $9,600 dream wedding hit back at critics claiming they're being 'bullied' for 'modern and innovative' way of donating

Mirror logo Mirror 6 days ago Scarlet Howes
Credits: Plymouth Herald WS © Provided by Trinity Mirror Shared Services Limited Credits: Plymouth Herald WS

An engaged couple who tried to crowdfund their $9,600 dream wedding has hit back at critics who mocked them.

Hannah Louise Miell, 29, defended a fundraising page she set up with Jack Dudley as a "modern and innovative way" for guests to donate to their big day.

The 29-year-old felt those on social media who questioned whether they should be asking strangers for money had "crossed the line between banter and bullying"

She said: "When my fiancé and I started the GoFundMe page, the audience was only intended to be our family and close friends for them to be able to donate or gift to our wedding in a modern and innovative way - IF they wanted to.

"The site has other campaigns in this category asking for funding for such events and I must stress it is not a charity only site.

"It wasn't intended for the page to be broadcast so widely over social media and I can understand why some people may have felt upset at seeing it in this viral context."

Hannah wanted to raise the money to get married in Ravello, Italy, a day she described as a 'dream wedding for a dreamboat'.

She set up a GoFundMe page on September 8 hoping that she could get the money from generous members of the public but her post went viral for all the wrong reasons.

Shared 7,000 times, the page has been mocked mercilessly by people who can't believe she wanted it funded by strangers, reported the Plymouth Herald .

Hannah, who works for an animal charity helping unwanted and injured pets, and Jack, who works in the Royal Navy as a submarine chef, have said the comments have crossed the line between banter and bullying.

The crowdfunder raised just $88 towards its target before the page was taken down on Monday night.

Before that the post was picked up by the Fill Your Boots 'military banter’ Facebook page, where it racked up more than 500 comments.

One person wrote: “If you cannot afford to get married in your dream location, either wait until you can or get married somewhere you can afford.”

Another added: “Surely this is a joke? How about the millions of other people who would just like to be able to afford to rent together make a home together, pay their bills.

"We all have dreams in our mind but you have to save for special occasions like 'your own wedding'."

Credits: Perspectives © Provided by Trinity Mirror Shared Services Limited Credits: Perspectives Hannah said: "One thing it highlighted to us is whilst we are happy to be part of any discussion over our 'request', there have been comments which have been both hurtful and inappropriate in some cases.

"I believe banter is a key part of being in the military, to overcome adversity and to bond with fellow personnel.

"With this being said there is a line between banter and bullying, which I believe has been crossed on many occasions in this instance.

"I think people should really think of how they conducted themselves, how that reflects on the military, giving thought to the people they are going to harass prior to making comments.

"Lastly, yes I am hugely proud of Jack and all other forces personnel and families for their dedicated hard work and sacrifices they make for our country.

"I genuinely feel they don't get enough recognition for this."

The GoFundMe page explained how tough it is for the couple when Jack is away at sea, adding that he volunteered himself to serve in Afghanistan in 2012, leading partner Hannah to feel “immense admiration and love for him [Jack]”.

She added that her husband-to-be is “an incredible, caring man who is hugely selfless” and that he helped Hannah get through depression to become medication free.

The fundraising post ended: “We don’t have the money to be able to afford such a wedding which is where we need your help. Please give what you can, your support means the world to us and will make a huge difference.

“We hope we can achieve our dreams and share a once in a lifetime experience with our family.”

AdChoices

More from The Mirror

AdChoices
image beaconimage beaconimage beacon