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The 4 Types of Phrases That Will Bring Down Your Daughter's Self-Esteem

PopSugar Logo By Alessia Santoro of PopSugar | Slide 2 of 5: Not only does shrugging off your daughter's emotions make her think she's wrong for having feelings or that she should hide the way she's feeling, but emotional invalidation can lead to struggles in her future social and romantic relationships. According to the Journal of Family Psychology, "the experience of childhood emotional invalidation may interfere with the development of social problem-solving skills" and "may contribute to unstable self-esteem."When your daughter is upset, sad, angry, or expressing emotion, avoid these responses (and instead, opt to listen to her fully and allow her to feel what she's feeling):You're too sensitive.You cry too much.Stop complaining.You're fine.Stop being a baby.You have no reason to be upset.Get it out of your system.You're being crazy.It's not that big of a deal.Calm down!You're taking this too personally.You're just tired.Stop being so moody.

Phrases that dismiss girls' emotions.

Not only does shrugging off your daughter's emotions make her think she's wrong for having feelings or that she should hide the way she's feeling, but emotional invalidation can lead to struggles in her future social and romantic relationships. According to the Journal of Family Psychology, "the experience of childhood emotional invalidation may interfere with the development of social problem-solving skills" and "may contribute to unstable self-esteem."

When your daughter is upset, sad, angry, or expressing emotion, avoid these responses (and instead, opt to listen to her fully and allow her to feel what she's feeling):

  • You're too sensitive.
  • You cry too much.
  • Stop complaining.
  • You're fine.
  • Stop being a baby.
  • You have no reason to be upset.
  • Get it out of your system.
  • You're being crazy.
  • It's not that big of a deal.
  • Calm down!
  • You're taking this too personally.
  • You're just tired.
  • Stop being so moody.
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