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11 Communication Rules Every Couple Should Follow in Their Relationship

Reader's Digest.CA Logo By Isadora Baum of Reader's Digest.CA | Slide 1 of 11: You can save or withdraw money from your bank account, and similarly, you have the power to save or use word choice depending on the situation with your partner. 'Nobody likes receiving criticism, and it can especially hurt when it comes from someone you love and want to admire you. If you feel you need to express a few critical words, think of your relationship like a bank account,' explains matchmaker, relationship expert, and rabbi, <a href='http://rabbibregman.com/'>Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Bregman</a>. (Here's how to <a href='https://www.rd.com/advice/relationships/how-to-accept-criticism/1'>accept criticism the right way</a>.) That means, save your criticism and deposit your compliments. 'It's essential that there be far more deposits (in the form of praise, kindness, expressions of approval) than withdrawals (in the form of criticism), lest your relationship account go into the red. If the amount you praise and admire your S.O. far exceeds the amount you criticize, when the time arises to express any disapproval, it runs a much higher chance of being received and accepted,' Bregman shares.

Think in terms of a 'bank account'

You can save or withdraw money from your bank account, and similarly, you have the power to save or use word choice depending on the situation with your partner. 'Nobody likes receiving criticism, and it can especially hurt when it comes from someone you love and want to admire you. If you feel you need to express a few critical words, think of your relationship like a bank account,' explains matchmaker, relationship expert, and rabbi, Rabbi Shlomo Zalman Bregman. That means, save your criticism and deposit your compliments. 'It's essential that there be far more deposits (in the form of praise, kindness, expressions of approval) than withdrawals (in the form of criticism), lest your relationship account go into the red. If the amount you praise and admire your S.O. far exceeds the amount you criticize, when the time arises to express any disapproval, it runs a much higher chance of being received and accepted,' Bregman shares.
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