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Mumsnet user miffed sister-in-law wants kids to get cash not gifts for Christmas

Prima (UK) logo Prima (UK) 08/11/2017 Francesca Rice

Mumsnet user miffed sister-in-law wants kids to get cash not gifts for Christmas © nautilus_shell_studios / Getty Mumsnet user miffed sister-in-law wants kids to get cash not gifts for Christmas A Mumsnet user has sparked a debate after revealing that her sister-in-law has asked her to give her nieces and nephews money instead of gifts this Christmas.

But who do you think is in the right?

Sharing her story on the online parenting platform, the anonymous woman asked whether it was 'unreasonable' not to want to give cash as presents to her sister-in-law's four children.

'Had a request from SIL (sister-in-law) that could we please give her children cash for Christmas and birthdays as "they already have everything" and often they miss out on gifts when they don't fit/are duplicated and I assume don't like it.'

Adding that her sister-in-law was concerned about a lack of space for gifts, she explained that she and her partner don't feel comfortable giving money to young children: 'They have 4DC (dear children) and she has cited clutter and space which I get.

'I have explained that DH (dear husband) and I feel quite strongly that we don't want to give money as gifts yet as they are young.

'I also suggested the children give us ideas of what they do want, that we check sizes or that we get experience-type gifts (like zoo voucher etc).

'SIL isn't happy about this at all. Said she's happy for us to give presents at Christmas but that her DC really want money and has made me feel extremely uncomfortable about it all.

'I'm annoyed as to me a gift is not something that should be expected. But I wonder if I've lost sense of perspective and I'm too stuck in old school ways???'

Safe to say her post received a lot of attention and was soon inundated with responses, most of which firmly agreed that her sister-in-law was in the wrong...

'Gifts are gifts, you (or your parents) don't get to dictate what they are,' wrote one, while another labelled the sister-in-law 'crass', saying, 'I highly doubt that children aged under 10 would prefer money to an actual present... She is extremely crass to be making this request regardless.'

However, some parents could see the sister-in-law's point...

'If I were you, I'd ask SIL for each child's bank account details and put money in a savings account for each child, one said. 'I understand SIL's point about clutter and there is so much waste associated with Xmas. If it is savings (i.e. not for the child to squander) then your money is put to good use and is not wasted.'

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