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How to tell someone they aren't pulling their weight in your relationship

INSIDER Logo By Lauren Schumacker of INSIDER | Slide 3 of 7: "Every individual is different and has their own needs in relationships," Julie Williamson, LPC, NCC, RPT, a therapist and owner ofAbundant Life Counseling St. Louis, told INSIDER. "It's important that if your partner is or isn't doing seemingly small things for you, that you make it known to them what you need from them in order to give them the chance to respond and make changes accordingly. If their response is one of judging, mocking, blaming, etc., instead of listening without judgment and with openness, they may not be the one for you."In order to talk to your partner about what you need in the relationship, you need to know what it is that you need in the relationship in the first place. Taking some time to think about things by yourself to determine what it is that you need can give you an idea of how the conversation really should go in order for you to explain to your partner how you're feeling.

2. Make sure you know what you need in the relationship.

"Every individual is different and has their own needs in relationships," Julie Williamson, LPC, NCC, RPT, a therapist and owner of Abundant Life Counseling St. Louis, told INSIDER. "It's important that if your partner is or isn't doing seemingly small things for you, that you make it known to them what you need from them in order to give them the chance to respond and make changes accordingly. If their response is one of judging, mocking, blaming, etc., instead of listening without judgment and with openness, they may not be the one for you."

In order to talk to your partner about what you need in the relationship, you need to know what it is that you need in the relationship in the first place. Taking some time to think about things by yourself to determine what it is that you need can give you an idea of how the conversation really should go in order for you to explain to your partner how you're feeling.

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