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Bride forces friends to pay £250 for bridesmaid dresses

Liverpool Echo logo Liverpool Echo 05/12/2018 Lottie Gibbons
a person smiling for the camera: Has this bride-to-be taken her wedding preparations a step too far? © Credits: Getty Images Has this bride-to-be taken her wedding preparations a step too far?

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Getting married is meant to be one of the happiest days of your life.

And guests are equally meant to enjoy the day celebrating the union of their loved ones.

But according to one bridesmaid, this bride-to-be has become bridezilla by taking her wedding preparations a step too far.

Having already asked her bridesmaids to go for expensive dinners and a holiday, a single mother was then asked to pay £250 for her own bridesmaid dress.

This sparked a huge debate as to who should pay for the bridesmaids dresses - the bride or the bridesmaids?

Taking to Mumsnet , user bridezilla1 wrote: "I am to be one of five bridesmaids for my friends wedding summer 2019.

"I am the only one of the five who has young children, I am also a single parent with very little money.

"Already the "honour" of being her bridesmaid is being very costly. There has been a few dinners to talk over her wedding plans, of which I have had to pay babysitters.

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"The dinners have been of the brides choosing and expensive restaurants with bottles of wine etc.

"There is a hen do before the wedding that I cannot make as it is a long weekend away (not possible for me) and the bride was quite unfair about it saying she was upset that not all of her bridesmaids would come."

She added: "We went to the bridesmaid dress fittings and selected our sizes from the preselected dresses of her choice - the dresses were £250.

"Yesterday the bride messaged saying she was going to order them so can we all transfer the cash by the end of the day.

"I don't have that kind of money and I am just really shocked, surely if we were paying for our own it should be a dress of our own choice.

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"I would never spend £250 on an item of clothing especially one that I will never wear again but what choice do I really have now?"

Bridezilla1 also added that all the other bridesmaids have transferred the money, leaving her confused as to what to do.

Other users were quick to add to the debate, with some even suggesting the mum step down from her bridesmaid duties.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys said: "£250 for a dress you didnt choose? No way. I'd back out now, it's not like she's short of bridesmaids."

MuddlingThrough1724 wrote: "I'd say she's a CF (cheeky f*****) and not much of a friend if she hasn't considered your circumstances.

"I'd be politely backing out of being her bridesmaid as a real friend would be mindful of the cost and wouldn't be making a fuss about you it going to the hen do. You're best of out of it."

And Davespecifico said: "This friend is insensitive to you, therefore not a great friend. I would politely say that I'm unable to be bridesmaid.

"The whole thing is going to be a money pit for you and cause you an immense amount if stress which she doesn't care about."

Some users even shared their own experience, saying: "I'm a bridesmaid next year and we have to pay for our own dresses hair and makeup...my dress was under £100 and I reluctantly paid.. but £250! No way.."

But others were quick to say that paying for your own bridesmaid dress is part of the tradition, user Aflie190 said: "It is normal to pay for your own bridesmaid dress. You maybe needed to say you wouldn't be able to do it because of cost."

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