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Louise McSharry’s inspiring reason why she was happy to be a ‘fat bride’

Evoke.ie logoEvoke.ie 4 days ago Claire Murrihy
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Broadcaster and author Louise McSharry has been inspiring the public since she documented her battle with Hodgkins lymphoma for the RTÉ production F*ck Cancer. 

The Dubliner put her wedding on hold when she was diagnosed with the illness, determined to be well by the time she walked down the aisle. 

In a moving article for the The Pool, she articulated exactly why she didn’t lose weight for her big day and was more than happy to be a ‘fat bride’. 

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‘When I got engaged I thought about losing weight too….’ she wrote. ‘In the end, I lost several stone in the year after I got engaged, and I didn’t even have to try.

‘Cancer, in the form of Hodgkin’s lymphoma, took care of it for me.

‘Fortunately, my experience with cancer also transformed the way I felt about my body, so I was OK with the fact that by the time my wedding rolled around, I had put the weight back on.’

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However, she does admit that she had some negative body thoughts in the lead up to the wedding – mostly due to society’s perception of how a bride should look. 

‘While scheduling your dress fittings, sales assistants reference the fact that the dress will likely need to be taken in shortly before the wedding because ‘most brides lose a lot of weight’,’ she explained. 

‘The message is clear. Your body isn’t good enough as it is. The strange thing is it really doesn’t matter if you’re already a slim person, if you’re getting married, you’re going to lose weight.’

This day last year we did this.

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Although Louise realises that lots of women choose to lose weight for their wedding, she doesn’t understand why.

She tells the story of a friend who lost several stone before her big day but now, a few years later, looks nothing like she did in her wedding dress. 

Instead of looking back on the day with pride, Louise writes that her friend is ashamed and only thinks about ‘how thin she isn’t now.’

For Louise, her wedding day was about being who she really is – and if that meant fat, then so be it. 

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On whether or not she could have devoted the time to losing weight, she surmised:

‘I might have felt delighted to be thin, but I wouldn’t have been able to maintain it, because my body is not built to be thin.

‘I would be looking at my wedding photographs today unable to recognise myself because I am a fat person. I have accepted that.

‘And so, I was a fat bride. I was a fat bride, with three size eight bridesmaids, and still I was the star of the show, because I was so happy.

Happy birthday @gordonspierin! Cool dude and all around great guy. ❤️

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She ends by saying that she was beautiful on her wedding day because she ‘glowed’ and ‘laughed’ and ‘danced until five o’clock in the morning’ and most importantly, because she is not ‘a work in progress.’

‘I am not a thin person trapped inside a fat person’s body. I am not waiting ‘until I lose the weight’ to live my life.

‘I have no ‘inner fatty’, because I am my inner fatty and my outer fatty and every kind of fatty and that’s OK. Even on my wedding day.’

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