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Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert: Overcoming Jealousy?

The Huffington Post The Huffington Post 13/10/2015 Dr. Jane Greer
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Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert are getting on with their lives in the aftermath of their divorce. The couple is dealing with divorce, which brings its own unique brand of hardship. One of the things that contributed to their marriage ending was dealing with jealousy. Miranda has confessed to reading Blake's text messages and direct messages on Twitter.
It's very important to tackle jealousy head-on rather than letting it simmer within the relationship. And your partner doesn't have to be a celebrity for you to feel the green-eyed monster in full force. In fact, most people go through this at one time or another, especially if their loved one winds up having to work closely with someone who is attractive and smart. When this happens, it is hard not to be rattled by the possibility that they could fall for this person and you could wind up losing them. So, what can you do to keep your fear and jealousy from taking over, and possibly creating more of a problem with your relationship than actually exists?
First, recognize that acting jealous can actually cause tension between you that may drive you apart rather than bring you closer. If you are feeling threatened, you may accuse your lover of doing something he or she isn't doing, lash out in anger, or just generally make things so unpleasant that you unwittingly push them away from you and possibly in the direction of the other person. The bottom line is that it is always uncomfortable knowing there are appealing men or women around whom your lover might come into contact with and find attractive. However, the real key to staying together happily is to focus on the connection you two share, rather than putting an emphasis on that perceived interloper. In other words, pay attention to ways to build on and strengthen your intimacy and closeness. If you are having problems over sex and/or money, for example, then now is a good time to invest your energy into problem solving and finding ways to compromise and resolve them, so that you can feel more confident, happy, and safe in your relationship. This way you use your energy productively to focus on considering and loving each other, rather than use it to act on your anxiety and possibly end up having it work against you.
When you are in sync and feel harmonious, it can eliminate any room for someone else to come between you. It can also help to ask for reassurance, making sure to avoid placing blame but rather raising your concerns and giving your significant other the chance to bring clarity to what is actually going on that will help you feel better. Despite jealous feelings occurring, when you have a strong foundation and trust each other, you can feel secure that you are the person your partner wants to be with. That will enable you to keep your relationship working and going strong.
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