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"I told them the tragedy of my life and they understood what happened to me."

Mirror logo Mirror 4/03/2017 Nicola Oakley
Roman gave an interview about his life and why he decided to reveal his secret at the age of 95 © Provided by Trinity Mirror Plc Roman gave an interview about his life and why he decided to reveal his secret at the age of 95

A man who has been married to a woman for 67 years and fathered two children, five grandchildren and one great-grandchild came out as gay at the age of 95.

In an interview with YouTube vlogger Davey Wavey , Roman, now aged 96, revealed how he had known he was gay at the age of five, but lived with this huge secret for nine decades.

During that time he was married and had a family, always knowing that he wasn't being true to himself.

Last year, Roman finally shared his secret with his family after deciding there are "certain things he wants the world to know.

He explained: "I just told them plain that I was born and I was all my life gay.

"I told them the whole tragedy of my life and then they understood what happened to me.

"Can you imagine 90 years to be in the closet?"

Davey then asked Roman if, now that he's out of the closet, he wants to have a boyfriend or companion, and he quickly replied 'yes'.

Does he have a type? Well, no. "I don't care!" he admits. "I don't look at the face, I look at the heart. Somebody to lean against. Somebody who feels the heart ticking - and nobody can do that unless you let them."

And then came an utterly heartbreaking confession.

Devastatingly, Roman doesn't feel as though he will be able to find a partner at his age - after so many wasted years.

"I'll be very honest about it," he said, "I really don't need any either physical or mental connections, I don't need [them].

"But I want to - I want to go to sleep and have somebody close to me, not for any other reason but to be sure that someone cares, you know? That's all."

He told Davey: "For you it's easy to find. For me, I'm too old already. Who needs an old junk?"

He then asked what Davey thought of him and if he had the "right" to come out at this age.

"It's never too late to be your true self," Davey said.

In a beautiful moment during the interview, Davey told Roman that he's proud of him and he responded: "Thank you. I am proud."

We're sure someone will be watching his interview and get in touch.

Davey told Mirror Online: "Roman's story is very complex. On one hand, it's the triumphant story of a 95 year old man coming out of the closet - and shedding the weight of a nine-decade secret. That is certainly something worth celebrating!

"On the other hand, Roman's story is also deeply emotional and, at times, quite difficult. At some level, it's the story of lost opportunities.

"You can't help but wonder, had the circumstances been different, how Roman's story could have ended differently.

"And you also feel for Roman's wife. While they undoubtedly loved each other in a deep way, both Roman and his wife deserve passion and sexual intimacy. Did they have that despite Roman being gay? I don't know.

"But despite the story's complexity, Roman's desire to feel the heartbeat of someone who loves him is fundamentally human. It's a simple yearning that drives all of us. In it, we see Roman's humanity. And we see ourselves.

"I think there's a lot to take from this video."

"There's a sense of history in understanding how far we've come, and the struggles that this man must have experienced.

"There's gratitude for the LGBT people who marched and rallied and bleed and sweat so that today's world is different - and that fewer people feel compelled to live in the shadows or closets.

"But there's also raw humanity. Whether you are queer or not, listening to Roman stirs something in all of us. And at a time when the world often feels divisive and divided, it's good to be reminded of our common humanity."

Roman with interviewer Davey Wavey<br /> © Provided by Trinity Mirror Plc Roman with interviewer Davey Wavey

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