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The Worst Thing You Could Say to an Old Friend

Best Life Logo By Alesandra Dubin of Best Life | Slide 1 of 5: The past seven months have had us all doing a lot of soul-searching. As you sat at home for days on end with little to do, you might have decided to reconnect with people who once meant a lot to you—a global pandemic will do that to you, after all. But reconnecting with an old friend can lead to a flood of emotions. It might even knock you off your guard enough to say something unintentionally awkward—or just plain hurtful. Of course, you know not to tell someone how much weight they've gained or to comment on their graying locks, but there are other, seemingly innocuous words you'd be prone to uttering in this situation that you simply shouldn't. So, what's the worst thing you could say to an old friend? "Remember the good old days?" Read on to find out why these words can wound, and for another time to choose your words carefully, check out This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who Lost Their Job.It can be easy to assume that everyone in a group of friends remembers old times the same way—but that's not always the case. One person's great times could have been painful for another."Many of us may carry shame about our behaviors, decisions, and interactions, especially during our teen or young adult years in which we are still really figuring out who we are," says licensed professional counselor Leah Rockwell, founder of Rockwell Wellness Counseling.Rockwell says you should instead "share a positive memory you have of them or a reminiscence about a former teacher or connection before allowing things to shift to the 'remember when' conversation."She notes that if your old friend engages in that kind of chat, "you'll have gotten some good signals that this will be a heartening conversation, rather than one that is potentially more awkward for both of you."Want more expert-backed tips on what not to say to an old friend? Read on, and for another situation in which you need to watch your words, check out This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who Just Got Divorced.Read the original article on Best Life.

The Worst Thing You Could Say to an Old Friend

The past seven months have had us all doing a lot of soul-searching. As you sat at home for days on end with little to do, you might have decided to reconnect with people who once meant a lot to you—a global pandemic will do that to you, after all. But reconnecting with an old friend can lead to a flood of emotions. It might even knock you off your guard enough to say something unintentionally awkward—or just plain hurtful. Of course, you know not to tell someone how much weight they've gained or to comment on their graying locks, but there are other, seemingly innocuous words you'd be prone to uttering in this situation that you simply shouldn't. So, what's the worst thing you could say to an old friend? "Remember the good old days?" Read on to find out why these words can wound, and for another time to choose your words carefully, check out This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who Lost Their Job.

It can be easy to assume that everyone in a group of friends remembers old times the same way—but that's not always the case. One person's great times could have been painful for another.

"Many of us may carry shame about our behaviors, decisions, and interactions, especially during our teen or young adult years in which we are still really figuring out who we are," says licensed professional counselor Leah Rockwell, founder of Rockwell Wellness Counseling.

Rockwell says you should instead "share a positive memory you have of them or a reminiscence about a former teacher or connection before allowing things to shift to the 'remember when' conversation."

She notes that if your old friend engages in that kind of chat, "you'll have gotten some good signals that this will be a heartening conversation, rather than one that is potentially more awkward for both of you."

Want more expert-backed tips on what not to say to an old friend? Read on, and for another situation in which you need to watch your words, check out This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who Just Got Divorced.

Read the original article on Best Life.

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