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You Know More About What Women Want Than You Think

Men's Health logo Men's Health 10/22/2015
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Quantum physicist Stephen Hawking, the guy who more or less explained how the universe works in his book A Brief History of Time, is a master of explaining complicated topics. But there is one thing he can't explain.

“Women,” he admitted in an interview with New Scientist. “They are a complete mystery.”

For all the claims that men don’t understand what women want, and vice versa, there is finally a hopeful sign that we’re not so clueless after all. We recently polled our readers on the Men’s Health Facebook page, asking them to make some educated guesses on what women prefer in a man. And then we asked the same question of Women’s Health readers. What attributes do you find attractive in a guy? The way the numbers match up is kind of staggering.

For example, when we asked women if they prefer a gigantic bank account or a gigantic sense of humor, 87 percent chose to laugh. And 77 percent of men thought that’s what women wanted.

Same with the tall and thin versus short and stout question: 79 percent of women would rather be with the tall and thin type, and 88 percent of men knew that would be her preference. In fact, every question we asked both genders, they both agreed by a wide majority. 

Take a look: What do women want? We took a poll of what women are looking for in a guy, according to men and according to women. Here's what each sex said:

What's better: Wearing underwear or going commando? COMMANDO Men: 86% | Women: 85%

What's better: Netflix and chill or going out all night ? NETFLIX AND CHILL Men: 93% | Women: 82%

What's more important: Thick arms or thick penis? THICK ARMS Men: 67% | Women: 67%

What's better: Being chivalrous  or being hands-off  ? CHIVALRY Men: 76% | Women: 70%

It would appear the antiquated Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus thinking might just be behind us. Women, as it turns out, aren’t complicated after all. Dr. Noam Shpancer, Ph.D., a psychology professor at Otterbein University who teaches a popular class on human sexuality, took a look at our poll results, and he wasn’t all that surprised.

Height, he says, shows good genes and good nutrition, so a preference for it is wired into our biology. Chivalry is code for kindness, and kindness is a highly attractive trait in both sexes. And wearing underwear is still the cultural norm, and most people are conventional.

But this poll doesn't just confirm that women have good taste. It demonstrates that men aren’t as inclined to shrug their shoulders and go, “I have no idea what woman are thinking. They’re a mystery!

“I think generally men and women understand each other quite well, if they pay attention,” Dr. Shpancer says. “We are not as restricted by pressures to conform to strict male and female stereotypes and narrow definitions of what constitutes feminine and masculine.”

Dr. Shpancer says women have historically been considered complicated and mysterious only because frank and honest expression was far more risky for them than for men. If you don’t interact with a lot of women, then sure, they might seem like a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma. But when women are your friends and not just objects of desire to be pursued, well, funny how you can start to understand how they think and feel.

So what have we learned from all this? Two things.

1. Don't Believe the that the dumbest people are usually the loudest. You’ve likely seen comments online—maybe even on the Men’s Health Facebook page—by guys who claim women are only interested in big organs or rich guys.

Well hey, guess what? To the surprise of nobody, they’re wrong. You knew that. You told us as much on this poll. So don’t listen to them. They’re probably coming off a really, really bad breakup. Their wisdom is not to be trusted.

2. The Distance Between You and Her Isn’t As Huge As You Think

We haven’t cracked the code of female desire. And that’s because there isn’t a code to crack. There is no magic formula for getting a woman’s attention. If you read these poll results and think, “Oh, I get it. I just need to get ripped arms and learn a few jokes and women will love me,” you’re missing the point. Here’s the point: Stop overthinking women. Yes, Stephen Hawking, this includes you. You understand black holes but women are a mystery? You are thinking way too hard about this, dude.

We’ll break it down for you. Women are human beings. You are also a human being. That means you’re a human being trying to understand another human being. How will you ever understand what she’s thinking?! This is not quantum physics. It’s simple math. You’re not trying to figure out if a butterfly feels jealously. Calm down. It’s just another person, just like you. 

So get out there, listen to the voice in your head that’s pushing you in the right direction. Trust your own instincts, and stop trying to solve riddles that don’t exist.

Don’t make us do another poll proving that you knew what she wanted all along.

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