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Would YOU let a stranger hold your baby? Mother's outrage after a waitress asked to cuddle her son - but other parents call her reaction 'rude'

Daily Mail logo Daily Mail 8/13/2018 Carol Driver

Yvonne Nelson standing in front of a window: A British mother has divided Mumsnet after she asked for advice on preventing strangers from holding her baby after a waitress asked if she could cuddle her eight-month-old son (file image) © Provided by Associated Newspapers Limited A British mother has divided Mumsnet after she asked for advice on preventing strangers from holding her baby after a waitress asked if she could cuddle her eight-month-old son (file image) a screenshot of a cell phone: The woman claimed a waitress in a cafe persistently gave her eight-month-old son attention while she was having coffee with a friend before asking if she could hold him to which she abruptly answered no © Provided by Associated Newspapers Limited The woman claimed a waitress in a cafe persistently gave her eight-month-old son attention while she was having coffee with a friend before asking if she could hold him to which she abruptly answered no A mother has sparked a furious debate after sharing her outrage over a stranger who asked to hold her baby. 

In a new thread on parenting site Mumsnet, the woman asked fellow mothers whether her reaction to the waitress who wanted to pick up her eight-month-old son was unreasonable.

And while some parents sympathised with the woman others were at a loss as to why she was so offended.

Writing under the handle Katarina12, she explained: 'Met a friend for coffee and cake this afternoon with my 8 month old... DS is very friendly and sociable and the lady serving our table took quite a shine to him. She kept 'popping back' to check we were ok and to smile and wave at DS. 

'I am very sociable myself and as DS is such a smiler I often getting chatting to people out and about which I am more than happy to do... however, this lady wouldn't leave us alone and persisted to keep coming back for well over an hour. 

'Finally as I was picking him up from his high chair to put him in his pram she came over and held her hands out and asked if she could hold him... I found this totally inappropriate. 

'In my shock my mind went absolutely blank and I rather abruptly just blurted out "no you cannot" - I am usually a very polite easy going person, but I was so shocked by her request and I guess instinct just kicked.

'AIBU to feel this was an inappropriate request of this woman? What would you have said/done?'

Responding to the post many users agreed that there was no harm in letting a stranger hold your child.  

One person said: 'OP I think you overreacted a bit. Do you think you were frustrated with her because she'd been back and forth checking on DS, so you inadvertently took it out on her by saying no? 

'She obviously was smitten with your lovely baby which there could be a hundred reasons why. A quick cuddle would have probably made her day. She was hardly going to abscond with him was she?!' 

Another wrote: 'I honestly can't see why you would be rude to someone who admired your baby.'     

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Others agreed that they find the experience uncomfortable but felt it was too awkward to say no.

One person said: 'I get awkward around that also. Everyone is always stopping me to say something about my daughter (ie how much hair she has or her big eyes.) 

'It gets extremely annoying with all the comments and one lady who was a bit older even wanted to hold her in the baby shop and I too was a bit taken aback and rudely said no and walked off. 

'I would never want to hold or touch a strangers baby so I don't know why they feel it's okay to do so. I hate when people touch her or her hair but I just smile politely and walk away. I don't have the balls to say can you not touch my baby.'

A user speaking under known as SpectacularAardvark praised the mother for having the confidence to say no.

She said: 'Well done for having the balls to say no, OP. I used to hate this and felt thoroughly uncomfortable with it, I wish I'd stuck up for myself more when my DC was little.'

Another added: 'I understand you OP - I would not have let her either, she sounded a bit creepily interested.'

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a screenshot of a cell phone: A British mother has divided Mumsnet after she asked for advice on preventing strangers from holding her baby after a waitress asked if she could cuddle her eight-month-old son (file image) © Provided by Associated Newspapers Limited A British mother has divided Mumsnet after she asked for advice on preventing strangers from holding her baby after a waitress asked if she could cuddle her eight-month-old son (file image)

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