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Rower's family: Coach pushed athlete to suicide

SHOTLIST:RESTRICTION SUMMARY: PART MUST CREDIT UCSD; PART MUST CREDIT BRENDA LILLY ASSOCIATED PRESSEaston, Connecticut - 13 October 20221. Brian Lilly Sr. and Brenda Lilly walking into a room with pictures of their son Brian Lilly Jr. 2. Pictures of Brian Lilly Jr. at various athletic events3. Various of Lilly Jr. rowing for UCSDASSOCIATED PRESSSan Diego - 6 December 20224. Students walking on UCSD campusASSOCIATED PRESSEaston, Connecticut - 13 October 20225. Mid of parents Brian Lilly Sr. and Brenda Lilly UCSD - MUST CREDIT UCSDSan Diego - Exact date unknown6. STILL image of former UCSD rowing coach Geoff BondASSOCIATED PRESSEaston, Connecticut - 13 October 20227. Brian Lilly Sr. and Brenda Lilly watching a video of their sonUCSD - MUST CREDIT UCSDSan Diego - Exact date unknown8. STILL image of former UCSD rowing coach Geoff BondASSOCIATED PRESSEaston, Connecticut - 13 October 20229. SOUNDBITE (English) Brian Lilly Sr., Father: ++TRANSCRIPT BELOW++ASSOCIATED PRESSSan Diego - 6 December 202210. Various of UCSD boat houseASSOCIATED PRESSEaston, Connecticut - 13 October 202211. Framed picture of Brian Lilly Jr. 12. SOUNDBITE (English) Brenda Lilly, Mother: ++TRANSCRIPT BELOW++++WHITE FLASH++13. SOUNDBITE (English) Brian Lilly Sr., Father:++TRANSCRIPT BELOW++14. Lilly Sr. walking into room15. Various of coaching survey Lilly Jr. filled out16. SOUNDBITE (English) Brian Lilly Sr., Father:++TRANSCRIPT BELOW++17. Various of the Lilly's watching video of their sonBRENDA LILLY - MUST CREDIT BRENDA LILLY Exact location unknown - Exact date unknown18. Brian Lilly Jr. talking at his high school rowing banquet VOICE-OVER SCRIPT:BRIAN LILLY JR'S STORY WAS ONE OF TRIUMPH. OVERCOMING CHILDHOOD ARTHRITIS, HE RAN THE NEW YORK MARATHON. COMPLETED AN IRON MAN RACE AND BECAME A DIVISION ONE ATHLETE.IN 2019, EVERYTHING SEEMED TO BE GOING RIGHT. HE WAS STARTING HIS FRESHMAN YEAR AT UNIVERSITY OF CALIFORNIA SAN DIEGO, ROWING FOR THE UNIVERSITY'S TEAM.BUT ACCORDING TO THE LILLY'S PARENTS, EVERYTHING CHANGED WHEN LILLY CHALLENGED THEN UCSD ROWING COACH GEOFF BOND FOR ALLOWING AN ATHLETE TO REMAIN ON THE TEAM DESPITE ALLEGATIONS OF SEXUAL MISCONDUCT.THE LILLY'S CLAIM BOND RETALIATED AGAINST THEIR SON WITH VERBAL ABUSE AND DEMOTED HIM WITHIN THE TEAM. TEAMMATES REMEMBER BOND CALLING LILLY A "FAT COXWAIN," AND A "SISSY."SOUNDBITE (English) Brian Lilly Sr., Father:"This guy basically squashed Brian's self-esteem. He threatened to push Brian off the team. And I don't need to have a sports psychologist in here to tell me how damaging that was."UPON RETURNING TO SAN DIEGO AFTER THE UNIVERSITY'S COVID PAUSE, LILLY DECIDED TO SIT OUT THE COVID-AFFECTED SEASON. HE HAD WANTED TO TELL BOND HIS DECISION, BUT BOND WOULDN'T RETURN HIS CALLS. AND THEN ON JANUARY 4TH 2021, BRIAN JR. HUNG HIMSELF IN THE CLOSET HIS APARTMENT.SOUNDBITE (English) Brenda Lilly, Mother:"You know, it was the darkest, darkest day of my life and of Brian's life. And we, you know, we just we just couldn't believe it."SOUNDBITE (English) Brian Lilly Sr., Father:"So, he basically got scared to death and overwhelmed and he probably felt defeated, of course he felt defeated. This was his life dream. The coach doesn't even call him back for weeks. What kind of mind game is this crap to a young, impressionable kid? It's so wrong."WHEN CLEANING OUT BRIAN'S ROOM, HIS FATHER FOUND A COPY OF A COACHING SURVEY BRIAN HAD FILLED OUT AND RETURNED TO THE UCSD.SOUNDBITE (English) Brian Lilly Sr., Father:"It said, 'I feel suicidal because of the predator coach and his harassment of me on the team.' It's documented. It's written. They got that."THE LILLY'S HAVE FILED A WRONGFUL DEATH LAWSUIT AGAINST BOND, UCSD IS ALSO NAMED IN THE SUIT. BOTH BOND AND UCSD DECLINED TO COMMENT.THE LILLY'S CASE IS ONE OF A FEW HIGH-PROFILE CASES AROUND THE COUNTRY THAT ARE ASKING THE QUESTION, "WHAT IS THE LINE BETWEEN HARD COACHING AND ABUSE?" THE LILLY'S SAY THEY'RE FIGHTING BECAUSE IT'S WHAT BRIAN JR. WOULD HAVE DONE.DAVID MARTIN, THE ASSOCIATED PRESS.===========================================================Clients are reminded: (i) to check the terms of their licence agreements for use of content outside news programming and that further advice and assistance can be obtained from the AP Archive on: Tel +44 (0) 20 7482 7482 Email: they should check with the applicable collecting society in their Territory regarding the clearance of any sound recording or performance included within the AP Television News service (iii) they have editorial responsibility for the use of all and any content included within the AP Television News service and for libel, privacy, compliance and third party rights applicable to their Territory.
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