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This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who Lost Their Job

Best Life Logo By Alesandra Dubin of Best Life | Slide 1 of 5: Chances are high you probably know somebody right now facing the tough situation of having lost a job—or maybe you're dealing with that struggle yourself. At the height of the pandemic in late May, almost 40 million Americans had claimed unemployment benefits. And according to a survey from the Pew Research Center published on Sept. 24, half of Americans who lost their job during the pandemic still don't have one. We all know losing a job can set off a constellation of emotional and practical challenges, and if you know someone in that position, you likely want to offer words that comfort and heal. But according to relationship and employment experts, some of your attempts may be falling short. It turns out, the worst thing you can say to someone who lost their job is an "at least" statement, like "At least you can collect unemployment," "At least your spouse still has a job," "At least you have your health," and so on.While these may all be true, phrases like these can diminish and invalidate the experience and feelings of someone who lost their job. "These statements can minimize the loss and shock that this person may be experiencing, and they may also be struggling with self-worth issues regarding losing a job," explains licensed professional counselor Hannah Dorsher of Hannah Dorsher Counseling. "This can be very traumatic for people, especially if they find a sense of identity in their work."So, what's a better alternative? "It would be more appropriate to say something empathetic like, 'I understand how you feel,' or even just, 'I don't know what to say but I'm so glad you told me,'" says Felicia Broccolo with The Life Coach School, noting that "empathy drives connection."Want to make sure you're not saying something else offensive? Read on for more expert-backed tips on what not to say to someone who just lost their job. And for more on what not to say in these tough times, check out This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who's Grieving.Read the original article on Best Life.

This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who Lost Their Job

Chances are high you probably know somebody right now facing the tough situation of having lost a job—or maybe you're dealing with that struggle yourself. At the height of the pandemic in late May, almost 40 million Americans had claimed unemployment benefits. And according to a survey from the Pew Research Center published on Sept. 24, half of Americans who lost their job during the pandemic still don't have one. We all know losing a job can set off a constellation of emotional and practical challenges, and if you know someone in that position, you likely want to offer words that comfort and heal. But according to relationship and employment experts, some of your attempts may be falling short. It turns out, the worst thing you can say to someone who lost their job is an "at least" statement, like "At least you can collect unemployment," "At least your spouse still has a job," "At least you have your health," and so on.

While these may all be true, phrases like these can diminish and invalidate the experience and feelings of someone who lost their job. "These statements can minimize the loss and shock that this person may be experiencing, and they may also be struggling with self-worth issues regarding losing a job," explains licensed professional counselor Hannah Dorsher of Hannah Dorsher Counseling. "This can be very traumatic for people, especially if they find a sense of identity in their work."

So, what's a better alternative? "It would be more appropriate to say something empathetic like, 'I understand how you feel,' or even just, 'I don't know what to say but I'm so glad you told me,'" says Felicia Broccolo with The Life Coach School, noting that "empathy drives connection."

Want to make sure you're not saying something else offensive? Read on for more expert-backed tips on what not to say to someone who just lost their job. And for more on what not to say in these tough times, check out This Is the Worst Thing You Could Say to Someone Who's Grieving.

Read the original article on Best Life.

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