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7 Ways to fight marriage fatigue

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7 Ways to fight marriage fatigue

I often joke with my husband that our marriage is aging faster than a fine wine. No, we haven't been married for very long — just five years, in fact. However, we both work at home together full time, which means we see each other about 40 more hours a week than most couples do.

The thing is, I really like my husband. We were best friends in high school, and I was immediately drawn to him, not only physically, but because of how easily he made me laugh. So, we have fun. We've also had a few kids, which means we've settled into the harsh reality of real adult life. We're not cracking jokes in the back of chemistry class anymore. We're working together under the same roof every day, balancing our jobs with wiping toddlers. I love my perfect little family as much as anyone else, but it can really start to wear on you.

Sexy ways to spice up your relationship that are totally realistic

Here's a completely un-sexy little factoid that might surprise you: As detailed in both Slate and The New York Times, it's women, not men, who are quicker to experience bedroom boredom in a monogamous relationship. This doesn't necessarily mean that monotonous monogamy will lead ladies to cheat, but it does mean women are more likely to avoid sex in a relationship when things get predictable. A 2012 Good in Bed survey explored the phenomenon of bedroom boredom even further. Survey results indicated that commonplace boredom in committed relationships was caused by cohabitating in 15.6 percent of cases, having kids in 32.2 percent of cases and getting older in 38.5 percent of cases.

There's no law that says you have to enter a committed relationship if you don't want to — you can keep sex random and exciting as long as it works for you — but if and when you decide to swim in monogamous waters, you may find yourself in the same boat as so many other couples in the U.S.: bored in bed. There are plenty of ways to approach this dilemma, but one of the quickest and most effective fixes is to challenge the monotony. If you find yourself dreading intimate time with your partner because it's become another chore to check off your list, here are a few proven ways to turn "on" your relationship:

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